7 Steps to Help You Reach Your Goal

With each step, write down the answers to each question in detail.  What were your feelings and emotional accompanying it? Write down any other important things in each step that will help you in reaching your goal.

 

Step 1: The Event

        What is the event that is bothering you or that you want to change? Is it an event that keeps happening? Is it an old pattern or habit you want to break? Is this the first time it has happened?

 

Step 2: The Response

        If this event has happened in the past, how did you respond to it? Did your response work? How did your response or the outcome from that response make you feel? How would you respond to this event if it happened again? Write down all of the possible responses you could use and what you think the outcome will be from those responses. How does each possible response make you feel?

            In each situation you are put into you can choose the response to the event which will influence the outcome you want. Your feelings are your guide as to which action you should take. Choose which possible response you feel confident and comfortable with. Write all of this down so you can read it back to yourself and see how you feel about it.

            If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got.

 

Step 3: The Outcome

            What would you like your outcome to be, be very detailed? How would it make you feel if you chose this outcome? Visualize yourself already experiencing the outcome. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that come with the outcome, to build a detailed picture of what it would be like. Write that “picture” down and how it makes you feel.

 

Step 4: The Action

            What steps, if any, have you already taken to move forward towards the outcome you want? Have these steps gotten you anywhere yet? Have you tried any different steps? Do you know the next step you need to take? If it’s someone you need to talk to schedule an appointment to see them, so it will actually happen. Pick a peaceful and relaxing atmosphere to do this so you will both be more comfortable. If it is an action that needs to be carried out, plan a timeline and the steps that need to be carried out. Get experience and answers from someone who has already gone through what you are now going through. They can tell you if they tried what you want to do and if it worked for them.

 

Step 5: The Blocks

            What are, if any, the blocks or distractions that are stopping you from continuing? Is there something you’re waiting for? How are you going to respond to these blocks? Let go of the negative thoughts and self judgment that you are having. Don’t stay in your comfort zone, you have to go out of it to make changes and grow.  Mistakes should not be looked as an imperfection that has ruined something, it is an opportunity for the wise to learn and grow from.

 

Step 6: The Plan

            Now that you have the outcome you want and what is stopping you from reaching that goal think of what the first step is to take now. What do you feel you can do now? When and how will you do it? Write it down in your calendar so you won’t forget and to make it a more real thing that will happen. Write out all of the actions that you will do, when, and how. What is your feeling towards each action? Make sure to plan out each action with the time in mind. Leave room for each step towards your goal to make less pressure and stress. Procrastinators are never successful in what they do.

 

Step 7: Review

            What happened in the end? Was it what you wanted and how does it make you feel? Would you do it the same way again? Did you get any clarification or insight from this experience to add to your “store house” of wisdom? Review the progress and feelings in each step.